Thank you for the added information. It helps a lot. I believe I can now be of help with this issue.
First, let me say I can imagine how overwhelming this situation must be for you. You clearly are trying to create some order out of chaos and you are not getting help from your parents or your daughter.
And this is actually the key to my answer to you that you need to consider and think about. It is important to accept that what IS really IS. What do I mean?
You will not buy your mother's and father's love with money and giving them things. Your spending money on them and your daughter doesn't make them see how much you love them and that you want them to love you. All it makes them see is that they can get things from you so you must think they're right. You must agree with them inside because you give them money even though they are not nice to you.
So this must stop first of all because you need to plan for YOUR life and future with this child. You have to save all your money and resources for what you need to do. So the money that you give to all of them needs to be put into savings to prepare you for your move to a different city or state. And if they complain, then you need to remember what Dr. Mark is advising you: you tell them that you really wish you could afford to help them, but right now you don't have the resources to help any longer. And that's all you say. No more. No apologies, no changing your mind.
And now the second step along with the money: you need to prepare to move. Actively prepare. Which brings us to the third step:
You have been looking for support from family. Instead, I want you to decide on where you might move and start looking at church congregations there. Find a church that is active and lively, that has programs for single adults, that has day care for little kids, that has lots of life. Because you and your granddaughter need a community. And a church that's lively is a great community! So start getting your support there.
If you know you can't move in less than 6 months, then do the same in your present town. Find a community of people that can be a support for you and your little granddaughter.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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