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Hello and thank you for your question.
Can you tell me a bit more about this person's behavior. Are there any other indicators in her personality or behavior that seem off to you? There could be many reasons for someone gossiping about their friends, etc. and a clinical definition cannot really be given for this one facet of behavior alone. Maybe you could explain more about this person...thank you.
Hello and thank you for the information.
Before any true clinical definition could be observed, it would be necessary for this young woman to first be drug-free. The reason I say this, is so many of her behaviors could be caused by her addiction to meth, which obviously sounds like a severe addiction in her case. Once she is clean and sober, then a more accurate assessment of her could be done. Many of her "behaviors" could be the result of a traumatic childhood which culminated in personality disorder type traits, or there could be a mood disorder going on or both. But again, her first clinical issue is her drug addiction,
And if she is not willing to get into treatment, then she really can't address any of these other behaviors, until she is more functional.
I would really advise that she looks into getting treatment for her drug abuse. If you would like to give me her zip code I could look up some treatment centers in her area for you.
It could be that she has mixed feelings about these people, and doesn't know how to appropriately express them directly and so she does so indirectly. Either through talking about them to other people in a derogatory fashion, or as you mentioned putting these thoughts and feelings into a forum that is not hidden and will be viewed by others. Is that an attempt for help? I would think that you may see many behaviors that are signs of "acting out" what is going on with her internally. I don't know if those are conscious cries for help or simple attention seeking behavior.
There are many layers to this woman and her issues. You may want to read about cluster b type personality disorders online, in an effort to better understand her. I'm in no way indicating that is what is going on here, but with some of the erratic behaviors you describe, you may see her in these descriptions.
The only way to help someone such as this person you describe, is to let her know you are here for her, while also setting boundaries and holding her accountable for her behaviors. You can't tell her what to do, but you can have a consequence for harmful or destructive behaviors, to show her that there are limits. Otherwise, it will enable her to act out and not see herself realistically. Thank you....
I understand what you are asking, however unlike the dictionary definition, there really isn't just one clinical definition or term for two-faced, as the reason for someone being two-faced and exactly how it presents as a whole needs to be looked at to determine a definition. That being said, with the concept of psychology in mind, someone could call someone who is often two-faced in behavior as displaying a "false self" meaning the true feelings and thoughts of the person are masked by an outward display of another kind of feeling and behavior. That these behaviors are an unconscious acting out of unresolved or repressed true emotions.
Other than that, I really don't know of one clinical term that is used to describe two-faced, unless someone has actual separate personalities in which that person would be considered as dissociative as in dissociative identity disorder.
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Yes, it's often true that even when there are undesirable traits in someone that can be hurtful or perplexing, that there still can be "value" to what you two share. That being said with the drug addiction and the other personality traits presented, this is someone who is creating more destruction at this time, and those around her will also feel it and be affected by her. There is no way around that, until she decides to get some help for herself, and you have heard the term "rock-bottom" and its often in that place, where someone will go for help. Often underlying addiction, is a great deal of emotional pain that has been suppressed and with the healing of such, one's more authentic self can be realized.
Just keep in mind again the best way to help her is to support her healing while setting boundaries and limits with her. I do wish you all the best....thank you.