Welcome, I am a professional counselor, Behavioral-Consultant and relationship expert. I'd like to get some more info to better understand your question and your situation. Is that ok?
I notice you're offline right now. I'll check back a later for your response.
Yes, what would you like to know? Reason for it is a lot of relational/emotional neglect in childhood, cold unconnective mother, father who couldn't do closeness either, that's it in a nutshell.
Thank you. From a counseling perspective, getting over an attachment disorder is based primarily on having a corrective set of emotional experiences with a significant other to rebuild the ability to love and trust again. Although this was once classically done in relationship with a therapist, there is good evidence to support the idea that a person can make significant gains around attachment issues through having a therapist mediate targeted therapeutic exchanges between people in significant relationships, where in the attachment problem is causing emotional distress for the people in the relationship.
One of the best examples of this process is EFT (emotion focused therapy) for couples and families. Let me find some good links related to EFT for you....
3. Here's a good book segment to explain the process of eliciting and expanding "bonding events" in EFT therapy:
4. This is a great book as well that you can usually find in your local library; very easy to read and understand:
5. Here's a good slide show that outlines the attachment-based change process in short term EFT couples therapy. It's the same basic process with the family therapy process:
Please let me know what you think about my answer so far....
Great, thank you Duddy.
You're very welcome!