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How do you get over an attachment disorder

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How do you get over an attachment disorder?

Duddy :

Welcome, I am a professional counselor, Behavioral-Consultant and relationship expert. I'd like to get some more info to better understand your question and your situation. Is that ok?

Duddy :

I notice you're offline right now. I'll check back a later for your response.

Customer:

Yes, what would you like to know? Reason for it is a lot of relational/emotional neglect in childhood, cold unconnective mother, father who couldn't do closeness either, that's it in a nutshell.

Duddy :

Thank you. From a counseling perspective, getting over an attachment disorder is based primarily on having a corrective set of emotional experiences with a significant other to rebuild the ability to love and trust again. Although this was once classically done in relationship with a therapist, there is good evidence to support the idea that a person can make significant gains around attachment issues through having a therapist mediate targeted therapeutic exchanges between people in significant relationships, where in the attachment problem is causing emotional distress for the people in the relationship.

Duddy :

One of the best examples of this process is EFT (emotion focused therapy) for couples and families. Let me find some good links related to EFT for you....

Duddy :

1. http://www.iceeft.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=47&Itemid=79

Duddy :

2. http://www.iceeft.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=48&Itemid=80

Duddy :

3. Here's a good book segment to explain the process of eliciting and expanding "bonding events" in EFT therapy:

Duddy :

http://bit.ly/k8Wj8s

Duddy :

4. This is a great book as well that you can usually find in your local library; very easy to read and understand:

Duddy :

http://www.holdmetight.net/hold_me_tight.php

Duddy :

5. Here's a good slide show that outlines the attachment-based change process in short term EFT couples therapy. It's the same basic process with the family therapy process:

Duddy :

http://bit.ly/j2qt6k

Duddy :

Please let me know what you think about my answer so far....

Customer:

Great, thank you Duddy.

Duddy :

You're very welcome!

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