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I think you need to try a direct approach and ask him. It sounds like it might be a combination of things. For one, it sounds immature. Second, the internet allows people to make inappropriate comments to or about others very easily. It would be much harder for hiim to make such comments directly to these women's faces. Also, men tend to engage in "locker room" talk in our culture. Often people make negative or inappropriate comments about others because it feeds there ego.
I don't know if am wrong but I just want to confirmed my suspicion. I have the suspicion that he is trying to get me jealous.
That is a possibility. Keep in mind that people who aren't "psychologically sophisticated" (for lack of a better expression) often engage in immature or inappropriate behaviors subconsciously...
Well he is a health profecional
That doesn't matter. I treat many health professionals...even mental health professionals.
Some people just aren't introspective...and I think it's hard for people to become in touch with their subconscious unless they have had psychotherapy.
There are some people (definitely not a majority) who are in touch with their subconscious through living health, being curious & introspective, and engaging in "self-therapy"...
You still there...?
His been neglecting me.he speaks to me only by phone.because am the one that make the calls.it's been a long time we don't see each other
and I try to make a date to see each other but he always tell me that he will call me to let me know
but it never happens
How old is he? What's his relationship history....divorced, single...?
Honestly, I don't think most people can stay friends after breaking up. You can't change him, but you can strengthen yourself to not let him get to you.
If he's trying to make you jealous or upset...it's working somewhat....you're allowing him to get to you and so you're here looking for help...
yes I am
If this is his behavior...maybe you are better off without him. Life is too short...you deserve to be healthy & happy...and with someone who loves & respects you.
what happen in the past.it seems like he haven't forgatten
I play him wrong in the past
I will like to see him.I would like to know if I still love him
Do you think there's a chance to see him or salavage teh relationsihp?
what's a salavage teh relationship
The get back together & fix things...
I don't understand
yes I do
Then you need to be relatively direct and tell him.
but I don't know if is a good idea that I should confront him
Don't confront him about the facebook stuff....1st focus on seeing if he's willing to give things another shot.
If things seem to work out well, you could gently ask him about the comments...or just drop it and move on...
You are welcome.
for the welcome comment, that is...
I will like to know if I still love him by seen him
and [ want to see his reaction
I don't think just seeing him will answer the question of whether you still love him. Seeing his reaction may be important.
I think you should see a live therapist to explore this issue. It's something hard to accomplish in a simple chat mode here.
we spoke over the phone and he told me.
that I moved away to puerto rico and I got married
so know he is making his life
and that he call me when I was in puerto rico and I was with my sons father
what specific questions do have for me now?
I can't stress enough that I really think you should see a live therapist...weekly for at least 6 months...it will be the best treatment for you. Live therapy is proven by research to improve your brain.
we spoke he told me that in the past he call me and I was we my ex husband
and now he is going on with his life
If you have a specific question, I will try to answer it. Otherwise, you should find a live therapist in your area.
ok thank you
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I will like to know if is a good idea to see him?
If he is willing, then try it.