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I would suggest that you let them know. Some things such as not getting a call on mothers day is hurtful and it would be okay to approach them. Depending on your relationship with them you can do this face to face or even through an e-mail or letter. Witting it down first no matter what way you approach them will allow you to get together what you really want to say to them or ask of them.
I would also suggest you word it in a way that does not put them on the attack. Such as "I noticed that we did not get a chance to talk on mothers day, did you have a really busy day?" This will allow them to start an open conversation with you about what may be going on. Talking to your son may also be the first starting point of this. Maybe there is some underlying anger going on with him. Starting a conversation about this might help as well.
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My son hates the fact I go to a psychologist, and hated when I took him to see him, so that would just make things worse. His Dad's influence!
I know how to be diplomatic after all the years of therapy. Should I bring up the mom?
You are probably right. I am really ticked off now. He has done it to me again. Earlier today I texted him and asked if I could come by this evening. He said yes, they just had one errand to run. So I said I would watch the baby if they wanted and they could go out to dinner. they asked me to do this last Friday, at the last minute , I dropped my plans and went, because i wanted to. Baby was just born April 19.
So he said he would let me know after he went home for lunch and spoke to his wife. Never heard another thing and it's not unusual for my son to be forgetful. So about 6:15 I texted him again said 'did you forget about me?' Answer back 'No just being really fussy' I waited another hour sent another text in case the ringing disturbed the baby. 'Call me when able.' Still no answer, so I called a couple minutes ago. he didn't answer. I could have been out walking my dog, or something, if he would have just told me as soon as he got home from work that tonight was not going to be good. Now I am pissed off all over again! He is just finally calling.
I would defiantly suggest working on some boundaries with him. It sounds like emotions are all over the place between the two of you. I would suggest taking the time to write down what you would like the relationship with your son to be like and what you feel might need to be addressed and how you feel would be the best way to approach him. This will give you a starting point.
Congrats on the new baby!
That is a good idea. he said he was busy with baby. I said, oh did Missy go out. He said she just went to pick up food cuz she hadn't eaten all day. I said I just wish you would have told me cuz I have been waiting all evening. He said he had been busy with the baby, again. Iwanted to say couldn't she have texted or called me?! but I didn't. Thank you for all your help!