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Thank you for your question. This is not Dr. Phil. I'm Kristin, a licensed psychotherapist who can help you with your concerns. This is alot to hold in for so long, so good for you for telling your husband and also asking for help.
Before, I answer your question, could you tell me if you have ever talked about this with your brother? When you say you want an apology, have you confronted him about what he did to you? And are you still in contact with this brother today? thank you for any additional information....
Thank you for info. Connie. It's extremely common for those who have been molested to feel somehow that they should have prevented it, or done more to help yourself (as you said), but in reality you were abused and victimized and you did the best that you could do. I really do think that counseling would be hugely beneficial to you, almost a requirement really so you can process all of your emotions about this. Trying to forget is not that easy and just keeps all those memories and feelings about this abuse, kind of stuck within.
The fact that it's popping up in your dreams definitely indicates that it's around and bothering you, and that is certainly understandable. I would really advise that before you do approach your brother about this for an apology, that you first seek out counseling and process your emotions about this abuse. I say that because I don't want you to approach him and then feel re-traumatized by his possible response, etc.
If you would like, you can give me your zip code and I can find some therapists in your are who specialize in sexual abuse and can help you....