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Hello and thank you for your question.
Can you tell me what some of the signs are that you are seeing, that make you think he may be having an affair again? Also, can you explain what you mean about sending him something in the mail and he didn't tell you? what did you send?
Have you caught him in any outright lies since his last relapses? thank you for this additional information...
I just reread your original question and I understand what you are asking. If you test him by sending him something in the mail and he doesn't tell you about it, does that mean you cannot trust him?
This is one of those questions that doesn't have a black and white answer. You could certainly test him if you wanted to and if he tells you about it, then yes that is a very good sign that he is forthcoming and honest. If he does not tell you however, it DOESN'T mean that he cannot be trusted. That is the problem... so if he tells you, you will probably feel better, but if he doesn't tell you, then you will feel bad even though it doesn't indicate 100% that he still cannot be trusted. As he could have many reasons for not telling you, etc. but still would not cheat and so on...
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