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Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.
Before I can help, I need to clarify a few things.
Who or what is your husband spending his money on?
Have you talked to him about this problem and if so, what does he say?
How would you like to see this resolved?
My husbands most of his income on his brothers and sisters.They are working but they are not married.
When I try to talk about this issue,he gets very angry,very quickly with a threat of violence and calls me stupid and other names.
I would like my husband to contribute more,without going down in the bank.
It sounds like you both need to see a counselor to help you sort out this problem. Do you feel your husband is willing to see a therapist with you? If so, you can talk with your doctor about finding one. Or you can meet with your pastor, if you attend church. You can also find a therapist on line at http://www.cpdirectory.com/cgi-bin/index.pl. If he will not go with you, go yourself. You need the support right now to help you find a way to cope with the situation.
You can also separate your money in your marriage. Create your own accounts and agree to pay certain bills. Let your husband choose which he will pay and you choose which ones you will pay, making sure that it is equal in how much you both contribute. Have your husband's bills put in his name and you put your bills in your name. That way you both are equally responsible.