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I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
From what you describe it does sound more like a psychological problem than a physical one. I would recommend however that you contact a General Physician just to rule out any medical origins to this problem. Sometimes other conditions like thyroid, vitamin deficiencies etc. can lead to a decreased libido.
This part, at the heart of most Erectile Dysfunction (ED) cases that have their root in psychological issues, is anxiety
. Anxiety around the ability to perform, and afterwords, anxiety from having failed to perform previously, leads to inability to perform in the present. Over time, certain negative beliefs around performance (e.g. I may not be able to perform) gets fixed in our minds making it very difficult to break out of it. The best way to address this in my opinion would be to consult with a professional therapist who uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. You can consult with a sex therapist or a therapist who specializes in anxiety issues - but typically it will be good if they use the CBT modality. I'm providing the link to a directory
which will help you to search for therapists in your area who are specialized in sex therapy, anxiety etc. I would encourage you to consult with a therapist. You should start to see a difference within a few sessions.
I hope this was helpful.
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