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It seems that your parents are over-protective and over-involved in your life. Some parents tend to be this way more than others and in your case it seems especially so. Unfortunately, you will need to set some boundaries with your parents. You will need to be a little firm and assertive and learn to say no without offending them. This is not easy, especially if you haven't been doing that. But with some practice it is possible to develop diplomacy and assertiveness so that you do not feel like you're being pushed around.
I would encourage you to start by reading this tiny handbook on assertiveness that contains some excellent tips/techniques to becoming more assertive. It is called "When I say no, I feel guilty" and you can find it here
Next, I would encourage you to consider working with a therapist or life coach on strengthening your assertiveness skills. With the constant support and encouragement from a therapist or life coach you will be better equipped to slowly build up your capacity to set and maintain boundaries with your parents without offending them.
I hope that was helpful. I have worked with many clients in a similar place as you are, so you certainly are not alone.
With some effort and persistence on your part you will be able to tackle this situation better.
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