i am at my wits end,i have never loved any one else in my life what to do
Hi, I'm still here...
i do try to keep my self occupied but it does not help, read and listened to discourse by Osho, which does hel some what, but istill cannot get over her
Have you tried seeing a live therapist? Keep in mind it's very hard to get over a 30year relationship. The good news is that I have seen many people been able to move on after difficult breaks up like this one.
yes but they are of no help except putting me on pills
There is a difference between seeing a live therapist for talk therapy & seeing a doctor for medications.
If you do see a doctor, you want a well trained psychiatrist.
i was seeing a psychiatrist she put me on pills felt drugged all day
You really need to see a psychologist of social worker for weekly therapy sessions. I would also look for a men's support group. You need to hear from other men who have been in your position how they got through similar situations.
wil try that but do you think we can live like frends and i get over the hurt and pain
I believe in general that people who break up after serious relationships shouldn't really be friends. However, that's not an exact rule. It's possible you can remain friends & live together. On the one hand it seems like a bad idea because how can you get over her if you are seeing her every day. On the other hand, I would be worried about you living along since you are already very depressed & suicidal. Is there any close friends or family you could stay with for a while?
Also, are you quite ill that you need her to look after you?
Is she staying out of the goodness of her heart to help you out? Or does she need your financial support?
Are you still there? I want to keep chatting & try to help...but i can only chat for about 10 more minutes.
i have high blood pressure, dabities, prostrate cancer which has spread, and on harmonal therapy my surgery was aborted without removing the prostrate, this month i will start with radiation
i was living alone it was she who insisted that i move back into the house so that i could be looked after
If you have noone else to look after you and can't afford professional in home health care, it may be best to let her help you while you see a live therapist & look for a support group to help you move on and feel better emotionally.
can you recommended any men's support group
the biggest problem is that when the other guy is in town i get real upset
It really depends on where you live. I would check the local paper, check with your doctor, call up local hospitals to see what groups they have, and search online.
Most areas have some kind of organization for aging people that can also help. You could also check with the local department of health & welfare.
Where do you live?
Here are some links:
thanks will do
I would start with those links & go from there. And please don't rule out individual psychotherapy & relaxation therapy as I mentioned earlier. These are very powerful tools. Good luck & take care. If there's nothing else I can help with, please hit the ACCEPT button to end the chat.