What you are going through is actually very common & can be overcome. You are relatively young & have most of your life ahead of you so keep hope alive.
Basically this difficulty getting close to people most likely represents a few different issues: 1) social anxiety
, 2) fear of intimacy, and 3) fear of rejection (and these last 2 are actually really just different types of anxieties).
The best approach to overcoming anxiety is a holistic one. The simplest way to start would be by reading some self-help books. Ones that come to mind for you include the following:
There are also several self-help books you can read which will help.
1) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra, 2) The Feeling Good Handbook by David D. Burns; 3) The Relaxation & Stress
Reduction Workbook (New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) by XXXXX XXXXX, 4) The Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven, Step-by-Step Techniques for Overcoming Your Fear by Martin M. Antony and Richard P. Swinson , & 5) The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook (New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) by Edmund J. Bourne.
I almost always recommend 1) psychotherapy with a live therapist, and 2) learning some formal relaxation therapy. Also, by formal relaxation therapy I mean yoga, meditation
, or similar methods. Having relaxing hobbies is also important, but not quite the same as formal relaxation therapy.
These last 2 treatments I mentioned are proven by sophisticated studies using brain scans (CT, MRI, EEG, pet scans) to improve brain function.
And remember you can't separate emotional health from physical health, so exercise & nutrition are vital.
Medications can be helpful for some people, but based on your brief description I think the previous ideas will give you more "bang for the buck," so to speak. Talk to your doc if you want to consider medication.
I hope this helps. Let me know if you need more feedback. Good luck & take care.
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