This is definitely something you can learn. You must approach the social anxiety & meeting girls holistically.
Medications can be part of the solution. I also recommend 1) psychotherapy with a live therapist to address social anxiety, and 2) learning some formal relaxation therapy.
The last 2 treatments I mentioned are proven by sophisticated studies using brain scans (CT, MRI, EEG, pet scans) to improve brain function.
Also, by formal relaxation therapy I mean yoga, meditation
, or similar methods. Having relaxing hobbies is also important, but not quite the same as formal relaxation therapy.
And remember you can't separate emotional health from physical health, so exercise & nutrition are vital.
There are also several self-help books you can read which will help.
1) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra, 2) The Feeling Good Handbook by David D. Burns; 3) The Relaxation & Stress
Reduction Workbook (New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) by XXXXX XXXXX. Also, if you go to amazon.com & search for "how to meet women" you will see several other book options.
Explore these methods & practice...and in know time your dating life will improve dramatically.
I hope this helps. Let me know if you need more feedback. Good luck & take care.
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