I would tell him to call me when it's all over. He has told you 3 different things - he wants to be alone, he wants to be with her and he wants to be with you. Which is it? He doesn't want to be together because he doesn't know what he wants. He is stringing you along by living with his mistress. That's what the evidence says. He has you on hold and he has her on hold. He is either really manipulative or he doesn't know what he wants. Either way you are hanging in limbo while he lives with someone else. Trust me. If she really wanted to move she would. She would find a way. Why doesn't he decide what he wants, move somewhere stable, figure out what he wants, and then let you know. I would be so fed up he wouldn't have to worry about it.
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