Hi and thanks for writing ja
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How are you today?
I'm good thank you
I have read your post
I am wondering what your concerns are that you do not permit her sleep overs or going to the school dances?
what concerns you?
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I guess it is her age. But my husband and I think maybe we are too strict. We do not want to push her away. We are older parents and I think that is an issue too
so how do we sort this out
13 is about the right age for school dances and sleep overs
so what do we do to help you to trust her to start doing these things>
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my screen shows you coming in and out of chat
and I cant tell if you are there or not
We do trust her. We just thought that maybe she was too young. Like I said we are older parents and I think we are basing her on our teen lives.
how old are you?
56 and my husband is 47
okay you are younger than I am
when children are 13 they go to school dances. I remember doing this when I was 13
and we had great fun at sleep overs
I do recall that our parents supervised these events
and they spoke to each other on the phone before each event
but that is what 13 years old do
they begin puberty and start to individuate
you cant use age here as a reason because in our era we did thost tihngs at that very age
ok maybe we need to expand ourselves also to give her a little more freedom. When I was 13 I couldn't do those things. My dad was very strict. That is why I don't want to be too strict with her
oh yes you have to let her do these things
that is what 13 year olds do
do you like her friends? are they from good families?
do you know her friends parents>
I know most of her friends and their families. Some we don't
well good then
Thank you for your response
as long as you know the people she will be with
you should be in good stead
I know you will be nervous at first but time to loosen the grip
good luck to you on this
Have a nice evening now