Thank you for writing in to Just Answer.
I'm sorry to hear what you are going through and want to say that your fears and concerns are very valid.
I think there are two issues here.
First, it is clear from what you write that there are major issues in your relationship with him. These need to be addressed. It seems like over the weeks these issues are not really getting sorted out but instead getting worse. This is leading you to have psychosomatic symptoms such as feeling fatigued, de-motivated, not wanting to get out of bed, wanting to work all the time to keep yourself distracted etc. None of these unfortunately can solve the problems. What needs to happen is the specific issues that are causing the fights have to be identified, acknowledged and clear cut goals have to be set to resolve these conflicts. If this feels like a daunting task you could consider consulting with a couple's counselor who can be a good sounding board. You could go to the counselor's office and then your husband could dial in at the same time - or some such arrangement could be made for the sessions. If you are interested, here is a directory
you can use to search for couple's therapists in your area.
The second issue here is the move to a new country. I think your fears are very valid and there is no guarantee that you'll land a job there right away, or that you will like the place. Given this, it may be a good idea to first try and get a job in that country. A job which doesn't require the local language. You can start applying for jobs online through a site such as monster.com that does have job listing for many cities of the world. Till then you can continue in your current job.
Until you have gained confidence that you can most certainly find a satisfactory job in that country and until a majority of the issues in your marriage have been addressed, it may not be a good idea to move. The move will not doubt put more pressure on the marriage and given where things are, the added pressure can only make it worse.
I hope this was helpful.
Please let me know if you have questions/thoughts.