Hello are you available to chat for a bit?
How long has this been going on?
Has he had this problem before?
Yes, about 2 years ago and he saw a pcycitrist for 3 visits and was put on diasapan (sorry about spelling).
Know he is sick again but it is worse
What was the result of that treatment?
He actually got better and gained all his weight back (lost 50 lbs). But he does not like psycatrist
What impact does this current episode have on your finances?
We have medical insurance, he is retired cival service, but there is a $500 deductable for mental. I am unemployed and going to school, so at this point we have enogh to bay our bills and mortgage but thats about it.
Have you tried a 'tough love' approach with him, i.e. telling him "you accept all medical treatment that may be helpful or __________________? Fill in the blank with a consequence he won't like?
To be quite honest I just did that. He asked for a back rub and I refused and he got mad and said he was going back in the shower.
Is this a new approach for you? Would you describe yourself as the soft nurturing type as opposed to the strict type?
Yes to an extent. We have been married 30 years and I have always been there taking care of everything.
Thanks for the information it is very helpful. I have some ideas for you. I am going to stop chatting at this point and I will send you an answer in about 25 minutes
Thank you for any assistance you can give me.
Mentally I understand what you are saying, and I have even tried talking to him about different issues and he is saying to me that I am making it worse. What is my response to this?