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Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.
It is very difficult to control someone else's behavior, particularly when they do not see they have a problem and they are willing to blame it on someone else. Trying to stop your boyfriend is going to be difficult, unless he wants to be stopped.
Three things you mentioned are critical in making your decision about how to handle this situation.
One, your boyfriend is acting out violently. Although he has not hit you yet, he is throwing things. That is usually a first step in hurting someone.
Two, he is verbally abusive. That almost always indicates a person who has no problem hurting others and does not intend to stop.
Three, he is blaming you for his behavior. This shows he lacks insight into what he is doing and how he is hurting you. You should never be blamed for someone else's choices or actions. How someone acts is their own responsibility.
Although there is no way to control his behavior, you can do something for yourself by getting out of this relationship. If you feel he is getting worse now, it will only be a matter of time before he hurts you physically. It is important that you protect yourself now by leaving. Also, you can help yourself stay strong and end the relationship by educating yourself about abusive behavior. Here is a link to help you:
It is important that you realize you are in an abusive relationship and they rarely improve. Most of the time, people caught in these types of relationships end up depressed, anxious and hurt, emotionally and physically.
If you feel you cannot leave on your own, it is important to get help. A therapist can help you learn to cope with how you feel and help you take steps to remove yourself from this relationship. Talk with your doctor about a referral. Or if you attend church, speak with your pastor. You can also search on line at http://www.itsgoodtotalk.org.uk/therapists/
I hope this has helped you,Kate