Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.
It sounds like your husband is not willing to put the work into the marriage. You have tried and he is refusing to help. Yet he does not want you to go your own way and try to make a life for yourself and your daughter.
He is making this difficult because he wants to have you miserable and at his beck and call. Instead of creating an atmosphere that would help you want to be with him, he is verbally abusive and in turn makes it hard to be with him. It does not seem like he is in the marriage for both of you, but maybe just for himself. Or, it could be that he is having issues of his own and is unwilling or unable to deal with them so he is putting them on you and making you the problem instead.
Before you decide whether or not to end your marriage, consider seeing a therapist. If you can, get him to go with you. But if he won't go, go without him. You need support right now on either how to approach this problem or with the decision to stay or leave.
You can also work on this problem yourself. Here are some resources to get you started:
Should I Stay Or Go? : How Controlled Separation (CS) Can Save Your Marriage by Lee Raffel
How to Know If It's Time to Go: A 10-Step Reality Test for Your Marriage by Dr. Lawrence Birnbach and Dr. Beverly Hyman
The Verbally Abusive Man, Can He Change?: A Woman's Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go by XXXXX XXXXX
You can find these books on Amazon.com or your local library may have them for you.
I hope this has helped you,