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It sounds like you are the type of person who has expectations of others and when they do not meet them, you are annoyed.
No I dont think this has anything to so with it.
I think it has something to do with my father
Your father was a noisy eater and drinker? Or did he become angry at you as a child when you showed poor table manners. In either case, I suggest you recognize where this comes from and try to let it go. This is old history for you and is impacting you in the present. If you can't let it go, then quietly leave the room when it happens. This is not worth spending your energy on.
At your age it is all about doing what makes you happy. We cannot control others, so we need to avoid those who irritate us. Spend your energy on things that you enjoy.
Best to you