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Anyone can end up in a relationship with a sociopath and or narcissist - there isn't really a personality type that matches that problem if they're the kind that can pass in public. But...and this is a big one, the battle fatigue that one endures during a long term relationship will most likely show itself in the symptoms you mentioned. All except Borderline Personality disorder - that one is a distict issue in itself.
If you ask the sociopath if the partner has those symptoms, they may well say they do - it would soften the victim up for another manipulation.
But, can the victim APPEAR to have Borderline Personality Disorder, not actually have it, but might appear due to the symptoms of dealing with the sociopath?
Absolutely. I remember your divorce case and all the intense pathology - if you're wondering if you could appear to mimic BPD when dealing with him, I say absolutely yes. But it doesn't mean you have it. You would have to have those symptoms for a long time and it would be pervasive in all your relationships, not just with him.
Does that make sense to you? A sociopath/narcissist will bring out all kinds of odd behaviors in another person, and then play them against the victim.
That is EXACTLY what I thought, I just wanted to get your opinion instead of me spouting it to myself without the expertise to back it up. This is a very, very disturbed person. He has taken psychological tests that show he is a sociopath (MMPI) and has NPD (MCMI). His side is trying to imply that I have BPD, when in fact my feelings and symptoms are just a response to dealing with him for 15 years.
Thank you so much for being there for me. It helps tremendously.
Accusing a spouse of BPD is just part of the crazy-making that goes on with these guys. You might have PTSD from dealing with him, but throwing out BPD is just another way to make you feel unbalanced.
I'm glad that I could help you out.....keep reality checking with others when you feel yourself falling under his spell - guys like that are like magicians.