I am going through a divorce and my ex-husband is an alcoholic. We have a three year old daughter and I'm am concerned for her safety, when with her father. Currently we have shared leagal and physical custody but I care for her seven nights a week, and she visits her father twice a week throught the daytime. I am responsible for dropping her off at his house, so that I don't put her in harms way by allowing him to drive. My cousin and I dropped her off last week at ten a.m. My ex-husband's girlfriend answered the door and appeared red and glassy eyed with small pupils and looked as if she was staggering. My ex-husband was still sleeping
according to his girlfriend and said he worked until four a.m the night before. My daughters father then came to the door extremely tired and possibly hung over.
With hesitance I asked my three year old if she knows what booze is? He reply was, "yes, it's yucky mommy, it's really really yucky mommy, like poop." I said do you know anyone that drinks booze? she said, "yes." the I said, who drink booze? Quickly she replied, "Grandmom" then "mommy." I said no mommy and grandmom drink ice tea. She then said "yes mommy, daddy...daddy drinks booze." i asked her if his girlfriend drinks booze and she said "no." Then I asked does Daddy drink in front of you? "she said "YES MOMMY." I asked my daughter to show me how Daddy walks when drinking booze. Well she staggered and bit fell into the kitchen cabinets, then straightened out and clamed up.
Can a three year old give an adult reliable answers about this situation and should I be concerned? What should I do for help in this situatiion? I don't want to ask her her questions about her father but feel the need to know what may be going on.