How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask David Akiva Your Own Question

David Akiva
David Akiva, BA, MA,
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 167
Experience:  Counselor; Behavioral Consultant
57833540
Type Your Mental Health Question Here...
David Akiva is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

20yrs ago after i had my 1st child, something happened to me,

Customer Question

20yrs ago after i had my 1st child, something happened to me, i went from happy to withdrawn and now i am a recluse and a hoarder, what is wrong with me?
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  David Akiva replied 3 years ago.

Duddy :

Welcome, I am a professional counselor, Behavioral-Consultant and relationship expert.

Duddy :

Do you mind telling me in a little bit more detail about the specific behaviors of concern your experiencing?

Customer:

i seem to double check everything and i dont trust anyone anymore

Customer:

also i wont throw anything away

Duddy :

What kind of therapy did you do? Are you still attending?

Customer:

i did 1 year with a psycologist and he said that i was cured, i feel worse not better, its so hard to get anyone to listen and tell me why i ended up like this

Duddy :

This must be incredibly difficult for you. I am so sorry to hear that you are suffering like this. How have you been feeling lately?

Customer:

aweful, i dont get off the couch, lately i wont eat or have a shower it all started when i had my son i had 38 hours labour and then a lvcs, they couldnt wake me for 2 days and i couldnt bond with my son

Duddy :

When you say that you don't trust people, what do you mean?

Customer:

i dont have any friends anymore as in the past they have taken advantage of me and the last straw was when my husband run off with my best friend

Duddy :

That must have been very difficult for you. What about social support from family?

Customer:

no i dont have that, im the youngest of 8 kids and despite holding a uni degree i have always been called a failure, they wouldnt even see me when my son was born as i couldnt even have a baby properly

Duddy :

Have you been provided with any formal medical and/or psychiatric diagnosis?

Customer:

no, i wish some one would tell me what was wrong with me and where the woman i used to be went, and help me get better

Duddy :

What are your appetite and sleep patterns like?

Customer:

i dont eat anymore, havent for a few months i just drink milk, i sleep for a couple of hours here and there but not all night, i cant get stuff out of my head to go to sleep

Duddy :

Alright. I think the priority here has to be to get proper help. Answering your question about why and how you got to where you are right now is very difficult and would involve a hours of clinical interviewing. It may be that you are experiencing clinical depression, which was initiated post-postpartum.....

Duddy :

I think you need to 1) get to a medical Dr. right away and get a full medical examination to rule out physical/medical contributing factors to your current condition. 2) you need to get proper psychological help.....

Customer:

ok so how do i get a doctor to listen to me and not just fob me off?

Duddy :

I'm just going to finish my answer....and then address additional question you may have, if that's ok. I would recommend Cognitive Behavioral Therapy with therapist with advanced training and experience. I think a strong behavioral component to the therapy will be critical for you to really get you active again, and to systematically address the thoughts feeling and actions that get in the way of moving forward.....

Duddy :

This is what I mean by CBT:

Duddy :

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/cognitive-behavioral-therapy/MY00194

Duddy :

The CBT therapy should have a very strong behavioral or "activation component" :

Duddy :

http://www.christophermartell.com/ba.php

Duddy :

What I've recommended medically is that you get a full physical to rule out or become aware of medical contributors to your current behavioral/psychological condition. Are you saying a medical doctor will refuse to give you a physical as part of an evidence-based intervention? You may want to find and work with a CBT therapist and then go to the Doctors with the therapists direction.

Customer:

the local doctor says im fine, the next doctor is over 100kms away, i cant see anyone without a gps letter, thats the australian rules

Duddy :

Has the medical doctor conducted a full recent physical examination with blood work to back up the claim that your fine?

Customer:

no, he just takes my bp and gives me 100 20mg oxycodone tabs for my headaches

Duddy :

Is he/she aware that your you barely sleep and that your basic diet is milk?

Customer:

yes he is, he says that it could be the start of menopause and not to worry

Duddy :

Wow. I would get to a CBT therapist. Have you had a moment to read the link I sent you on CBT?

Customer:

no not yet but i will once i finish talking to you, i get brain overload and get confused if i try to take too much in at once

Duddy :

Ok, that is fully understandable.

Duddy :

I hope you understand my concern here for your health and well-being. Once you get the proper help you need and are functioning properly again, you can reconstruct why you got to where you were. You will probably learn a great deal in a short period of time through CBT as well. My worry is that you not pre-occupy your self with depressing thoughts about the past, but that you start to have positive thoughts and actions for the future. Once you read the links I sent you, I think you will better understand my approach here.

Duddy :

A CBT therapist will also help you to develop strategies for getting healthy spiritual, social and emotional support as well.

Duddy :

I see that you've gone off line. I'll check back periodically for your response.

Customer:

thank you, XXXXX XXXXX have told me has helped greatly, i now know where to start on my journey to wellness, i will let you know how i go and i will also keep asking questions, again thank you

David Akiva, BA, MA,
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 167
Experience: Counselor; Behavioral Consultant
David Akiva and 2 other Mental Health Specialists are ready to help you
Expert:  David Akiva replied 3 years ago.
You're very welcome. Please learn as much as you can about CBT and focus on getting the help you need for setting up real positive change in your life. When things get better, you may not need or want to look back for detailed information, but just start enjoying your life.

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much Corrie Moll Pretoria, South Africa
< Last | Next >
  • I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much Corrie Moll Pretoria, South Africa
  • I thank-you so much! It really helped to have this information and confirmation. We will watch her carefully and get her in for the examination and US right away if things do not improve. God bless you as well! Claudia Albuquerque, NM
  • Outstanding response time less than 6 minutes. Answered the question professionally and with a great deal of compassion. Kevin Beaverton, OR
  • Suggested diagnosis was what I hoped and will take this info to my doctor's appointment next week.
    I feel better already! Thank you.
    Elanor Tracy, CA
  • Thank you to the Physician who answered my question today. The answer was far more informative than what I got from the Physicians I saw in person for my problem. Julie Lockesburg, AR
  • You have been more help than you know. I seriously don't know what my sisters situation would be today if you had not gone above and beyond just answering my questions. John and Stefanie Tucson, AZ
  • I have been dealing with an extremely serious health crisis for over three years, and one your physicians asked me more questions, gave me more answers and encouragement than a dozen different doctors who have been treating me!! Janet V Phoenix, AZ
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Dr. Keane

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1262
    Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DR/Dr.Keane/2013-8-20_204325_drkeane.64x64.jpg Dr. Keane's Avatar

    Dr. Keane

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1262
    Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/RE/resolutions66/2011-1-17_05728_IMG8202smilingeditedforJustAnswer.64x64.jpg Elliott, LPCC, NCC's Avatar

    Elliott, LPCC, NCC

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    5024
    35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/formybunch/2010-12-06_191055_img_0975.jpg Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC's Avatar

    Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    3733
    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DR/DrAkiraOlsen/2012-2-20_746_AkiraADpicmain.64x64.jpg Dr. Olsen's Avatar

    Dr. Olsen

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2336
    PsyD Psychologist
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/norriem/2009-5-27_134249_nm.jpg Norman M.'s Avatar

    Norman M.

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2193
    UK trained in hypnotherapy, counselling and psychotherapy and have been in private practice. ADHP(NC), DEHP(NC), UKCP Registered and ECP.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/PsychologyProf/2010-07-15_171248_logos060400409.jpg Dr. Michael's Avatar

    Dr. Michael

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2177
    Licensed Ph.D. Clinical Health Psychology with 30 years of experience in private practive and as a clinical psychology university professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/KURTEMMERLING/2010-07-23_215531_just_ask_picture1.jpg Steven Olsen's Avatar

    Steven Olsen

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1727
    More than twenty years of expertise in counseling, psychological diagnosis and education