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I am sorry to hear about your marital difficulties. I am sure that it has been a strain for you these past 5 years and especially the past 9 months. Unfortunately, nothing you say or do will magically make him want to try. You have probably tried everything with little response. We can not change other people. If your husband does not want to change, he will not. You can suggest marital counseling and see if he is willing to go. However, I recommend that you seek individual counseling first. You have been beaten down by this situation and need to focus on building yourself up. Find a therapist you can work with. You deserve to feel better and you can regardless of what happens with your marriage. Focus on building your self-esteem and deciding what you want from a relationship. Good luck to you and let me know if you have further questions.
Thank you. I had already suggested counselling, individual and combined marital, both of which were declined.
It was good that you asked. You needed to know what he was willing to do, which it sounds like nothing. Shift your focus to you.
Do you need anything else? Any other questions?
I don't think so. I have the number for the counsellors for my office EAP program. I'm going to call first thing tomorrow. I need to prepare myself for being single after so long, and handle the children's questions and emotions, which will be inevitable. Thanks again for your help.
EAP is a great program. Good luck to you. If you are satisfied with our interaction, please click the accept button. Thank you and good luck to you.