It is my understanding that the majority of pedifiles were also victims of molestation at some previous time, meaning there must be a lot of molested children who become molesters (obviously due to improper processing of what happened to them). With this in mind, I have a concern with them spending time with my children. Perhaps I should say "danger" instead of influence. I mean, if there's a higher risk of these boys becoming pedifiles or this girl becoming promiscuous, when does this behavior start? in what form? Am I over-reacting to wonder if there could be potentially harmful, immoral, negative affects or influence on my children with time spent with these victims of molestation? My heart goes out to them, I am certainly not wanting to be cruel, discriminatory or incommpassionate. I just want to protect my own children I beleive you can and should have a say in who your childrens friends are. If I knew of parents who did drugs with their kids, I would not allow my own kids to hang out with them, perhaps the kids have become addicted (even though they started as victims), like doing the drugs, and influence my kids to try, or they are harboring intense anger and rage because they feel victimized. I don't know, just don't want to be naive. Some decisions in who they befriend are easy, a kid with a foul mouth, a teen girl that dresses like a prostitute, but this I'm unsure about. They seem to be attention-seeking, a little needy of approval or acceptance, and the 2 boys stretch the truth often. I know they were both just put on medication, 1 for ADD
, the other for ADHD. It's the bigger stuff I'm concerned about, specifically, what ARE the typical and possible effects of child molestation on the child?
I would think being left with a normal childhood, thought life, etc., would be slim, sadly, at least without good therapy for a long enough time. Yes, the neighbors do want to be friends with my kids, as a matter of fact, we've taken them to church several times and they have been here playing maybe 6 or 8 times. My kids are less interested, but we homeschool and they get bored. Seems the neighbors are always waiting for them to come out or for us to pull in the drive --sometimes they're in our backyard even! I've heard it said "Tell me who your friends are, and I"ll tell you who you are." I would agree, which is why I am concerned!