thank you for your question, and I sympathize with your current situation with your sister. I have a few questions before giving my recommendation. What would be your ideal relationship at this point?
I have tried to "separate" from my mother as she is very ill mentally and I can't cope with her. I haven't seen her in 3 months, and I hear these lies being told by her constantly.
I just want her to leave me and my family alone
And my sister.
I never really had a real mother or sister. It was a very toxic environment.
My father was the stable one.
I am sorry to hear about your familiar relationship. At this point, ideally, you do not want any relationship with your mother and sister. Is that correct? Is the advice you are seeking regarding how to achieve this?
Yes. That and how do I stop my sister from trying to control me from 1200 miles away.
I' m scared of her and what she might do . . .
To end all contact with your mother and sister, I would first start writing down thoughts and feelings you have in terms of your relationship. Your feelings of hurt, disappointment, anger, etc should be written out. Then, I would compose a note that expresses these thoughts and feelings. Have someone read it over so that the letter does not come across as vengeful. After the letter is composed, send it to them. If you want to hear a response of the letter from, you can include that in your note. If not, I would explicitly write that you will contact them when you felt ready to discuss this matter any further.
Okay. I'll try. thanks.
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