Thank you for your question. I can see how frustrating these situations can be. Before answering your question, I have a few questions to ask. When you overhear other people say judgemental comments, what types of feelings are you experiencing? How do you express these feelings? Why is it so important for you to have other people think you are smart?
I feel angry and hurt. Sometimes I lose my temper, but usually I keep my feelings bottled up. Academics has always been important to me. I feel like academics is the only thing I'm good at.
You mention that academics is the only thing you are good at. What aspects of your life do you wish you can improve?
I want to become more social and develop some hobbies. I could become more athletic and maybe learn how to cook.
Great! these are great activities to engage in. Describe what "social" mean to you? do you feel that you don't have enough friends or meaningful relationships in your life?
I've never had many friends. I guess I want to learn how to make friends. Some people make friends so easily. I want to acquire the skills necessary in developing and maintaining relationships.
Before discussing ways to develop friendships, I am wondering how previious relationships have ended for you.
I'm very sensitive, so I end up taking everything the other person says personally, and so the relationship comes to an end.
Other than not being smart, what other things have people said that were hurtful?
People have made fun of me on how I look, not being good at sports, being a loner, etc.
How do you find out about these things?
If you are still there, my recommendations for you at this point is to involve yourself into many diffierent activities that you prefer to be part of. For example, there may be adult education classes on cooking or learning how to play a sport, or a sports club where you sign up to be part of a team.