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Excellent questions! This is a tough situation and there are no easy solutions. You need to have some honest, frank discussions with your daughter. She is old enough to understand the financial situation and these tough economic times. She is also at an age where emotions change quickly, so be prepared for her to shift often. Don't react, just listen, affirm that this kind of change is hard. Try not to argue points when she is emotional, save that for calmer times. Her emotions are going to reflect her fears and anger, let her know you understand and will be there for her. Let her know that you are invested in finding the best solutions possible. Include her in the decision making. Sit her down, be clear about the situation and tell her that you are looking at all options. Look up as much information about the area on the internet, then plan a trip to Kentucky so she can visit the area and local schools. You may want to consider staying in Florida with her until the school year is over, that way, you and her could visit a couple of times. Be clear with her that you want her input, brainstorm lots of options, for this next year and the years until she graduates, and let her know that you aren't going to decide on any one option until you have gotten as much information as possible and you both have had time to think things over. This is a good learning opportunity on how to make these kinds of decisions. Show her that you don't make big decsions based on emotion alone, information and logic are very important. You will need to be the stable, logical one here. Don't let her emotional reactions get to you. You have a close relationship going for you, this will help a lot. Good luck to you and let me know if you have other questions.