Hi thanks i know you can't diagnose him but i would like to detail a bit more about his behaviour.
He has embarrassed me in front of my older daughters and their friends i.e thrown a drink and glass at me when we've been out.
Uncomfortable when daughter shows affection, pushes her away.
Driven into me with youngest daughter in the car (she was physically sick)
Locked me out of the house with kids.
Broken downstairs Double glazed windows.
He is intelligent and manipulative and twists things to make me look bad whilst he can maintain a calm exterior.
Does'nt keep much contact with his family whom were successful academics.
Does'nt keep much contact with his 14 year old daughter.
Different person around his parents a false front (respectful, attentative more like the man i married.
two and a half years into the marriage is when the cracks in his personality started to show, shortly after this i was diagnosed with a high blood preesure and after that an over active thyroid that i seriously believe was down to severe stress.
I feel i am living on nerves and anxiety, he does nothing to allay my worries i think he enjoys seeing me struggle and worrying.
I have 24 and 26 year old daughters to whom i have encouraged to never take abuse from a man. (I feel like the biggest hypocrite out there)
My son 17 and fortunately caring and sensitive. (The guilt ways me down)
My 11 daughter is lucky to have older syblings that are a positve roll model for her and show her great care and concern.
I always feel that i have to over compensate this wears me down.
I was a confident independant single mother of 3 when i met him and knew my own mind, what happened, I carry the guilt of not getting him out the first time he over stepped the boundary.
I divorced my first husband for far far less, maybe i did'nt want to fail again.
Whilst we attended marriage guidance the councillor commented to him that in the 17 years she had been doing this she had never met a man with his lack of communicating skills.
I don't know where this is all going to end at the moment because we are not even sleeping together i just feel sad and worry about it all all the time.
I have been waiting for things to get better they have'nt in fact i feel i keep making bad decisions.
Thankyou for taking the time