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I would recommend the Carolina House in North Carolina. They are a comprehensive treatment program for eating disorders and dual diagnosis. Here is a link to their program. http://www.carolinaeatingdisorders.com/
In addition, I am wondering if you have attended Al-anon meetings or families anonymous or perhaps CODA meetings (codependents anonymous meetings) To help with the codependency? Regardless, the treatment program above will address all of the issues you mentions.
I wish you all the best with this and please let me know if you have further questions.
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