Good evening. First let me say how sorry I am to hear of the difficulty and pain that you have endured over your life. Despite what your parents say...this is not something that one can simply "get over" despite the fact that abuse has since died....the pain it caused lives on within you. I noticed that you spoke to a therapist. My suggestion for you would be to see a specialist who treats adult survivors of sexual abuse. Essentially a trauma specialist. I suggest this because I am a trauma specialist and unfortunately see cases such as yours often in practice.
I would strongly urge you to call your insurance company and request a referral to a trauma specialist who has experience in what you've identified.
Please feel free to ask me any questions that you may have or if you need further clarification on any of the suggestions I've offered.
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