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I don not feel the councerling I am paying for is really getting

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I don not feel the councerling I am paying for is really getting to the root of the problem. The Drug is helpful.
I want to know what therapy works best with my disorder?
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Kristin replied 3 years ago.

Hi again,

 

A very effective therapy is called DBT. It is for emotionally unstable personality disorder, borderline personality disorder. It teached you how to regulate emotions, rather than feel engulfed by them:

The four modules

[edit] Mindfulness

Mindfulness is one of the core concepts behind all elements of DBT. Mindfulness is the capacity to pay attention, non-judgmentally, to the present moment. Mindfulness is all about living in the moment, experiencing one's emotions and senses fully, yet with perspective. It is considered a foundation for the other skills taught in DBT, because it helps individuals accept and tolerate the powerful emotions they may feel when challenging their habits or exposing themselves to upsetting situations. The concept of mindfulness and the meditative exercises used to teach it are derived from traditional Buddhist practice, though the version taught in DBT does not involve any religious or metaphysical concepts.

[edit] Skills within the Mindfulness module

[edit] The "What" Skills
Observe
This is used to non-judgmentally observe one's environment within or outside oneself. It is helpful in understanding what is going on in any given situation.
Describe
This is used to express what one has observed with the observe skill. It is to be used without judgmental statements. This helps with letting others know what you have observed.
Participate
This is used to become fully involved in the activity that one is doing. To be able to fully focus on what one is doing.
[edit] The "How" Skills
Non-Judgmentally
This is the action of describing the facts, and not thinking about what's "good" or "bad", "fair", or "unfair." These are judgments because this is how you feel about the situation but isn't a factual description. Being non-judgmental helps to get your point across in an effective manner without adding a judgment that someone else might disagree with.
One-Mindfully
This is used to focus on one thing. One-mindfully is helpful in keeping your mind from straying into emotion mind by a lack of focus.
Effectively
This is simply doing what works. It is a very broad-ranged skill and can be applied to any other skill to aid in being successful with said skill.[8]

[edit] Distress Tolerance

Many current approaches to mental health treatment focus on changing distressing events and circumstances. They have paid little attention to accepting, finding meaning for, and tolerating distress. This task has generally been tackled by psychodynamic, psychoanalytic, gestalt, or narrative therapies, along with religious and spiritual communities and leaders. Dialectical behavior therapy emphasizes learning to bear pain skillfully.

Distress tolerance skills constitute a natural development from DBT mindfulness skills. They have to do with the ability to accept, in a non-evaluative and nonjudgmental fashion, both oneself and the current situation. Although this is a nonjudgmental stance, this does not mean that it is one of approval or resignation. The goal is to become capable of calmly recognizing negative situations and their impact, rather than becoming overwhelmed or hiding from them. This allows individuals to make wise decisions about whether and how to take action, rather than falling into the intense, desperate, and often destructive emotional reactions that are part of borderline personality disorder.

[edit] Skills within the Distress tolerance module

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Distract with ACCEPTS
This is a skill used to distract oneself temporarily from unpleasant emotions. The acronym breaks into:
Activities: Use positive activities that you enjoy.
Contribute: Help out others or your community.
Comparisons: Compare yourself either to people that are less fortunate or to how you used to be when you were in a worse state.
Emotions (other): cause yourself to feel something different by provoking your sense of humor or happiness with corresponding activities.
Push away: Put your situation on the back-burner for a while. Put something else temporarily first in your mind.
Thoughts (other): Force your mind to think about something else.
Sensations (other) - Do something that has an intense feeling other than what you are feeling, like a cold shower or a spicy candy.
Self Soothe
This is a skill in which one behaves in a comforting, nurturing, kind, and gentle way to oneself. You use it by doing something that is soothing to you. It is used in moments of distress or agitation.
IMPROVE the Moment
This skill is used in moments of distress to help one relax. The acronym stands for:
Imagery: Imagine relaxing scenes, things going well, or other things that please you.
Meaning: Find some purpose or meaning in what you are feeling.
Prayer: Either pray to whomever you worship or if not religious, chant a personal mantra.
Relaxation: Relax your muscles, breathe deeply; use with Self Soothing.
One thing in the moment: Focus your entire attention on what you are doing right now. Keep yourself in the present.
Vacation (brief): Take a break from it all for a short period of time.
Encouragement: Cheer-lead yourself. Tell yourself you can make it through this.
Pros and Cons
Think about the positive and negative things about not tolerating distress.
Radical Acceptance
Letting go of fighting reality. Accept your situation for what it is.
Turning the Mind
Turn your mind towards an acceptance stance. It should be used with Radical Acceptance.
Willingness vs. Willfulness
Being willing and open to do what is effective. Let go of a willful stance which goes against acceptance. Keep your eye on the goal in front of you.

[edit] Emotion Regulation

Individuals with borderline personality disorder and suicidal individuals are frequently emotionally intense and labile. They can be angry, intensely frustrated, depressed, or anxious. This suggests that these clients might benefit from help in learning to regulate their emotions. Dialectical behavior therapy skills for emotion regulation include:[9][10]

  • Identifying and labeling emotions
  • Identifying obstacles to changing emotions
  • Reducing vulnerability to emotion mind
  • Increasing positive emotional events
  • Increasing mindfulness to current emotions
  • Taking opposite action
  • Applying distress tolerance techniques

[edit] Skills within the Emotion regulation module

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Story of Emotion
Used to understand what kind of emotion one is feeling. To use this, list the following:
  1. Prompting event
  2. Interpretation of the event
  3. Body sensations
  4. Body language
  5. Action urge
  6. Action
  7. Emotion name, based on previous items on list.
PLEASE MASTER
Having ineffective health habits can make one more vulnerable to emotion mind. This skill is used to maintain a healthy body so one is more likely to have healthy emotions. It is an acronym that stands for the following:
PhysicaL Illness (treat): If you are sick or injured, get proper treatment for it.
Eating (balanced): Make sure you eat a proper healthy diet, and eat in moderation.
Avoid Mood-Altering Drugs: Do not take non-prescribed medication or illegal drugs. They are very harmful to your body, and can make your mood unpredictable.
Sleep (balanced): Do not sleep too much or too little. 8 hours of sleep is recommended per night for the average adult.
Exercise: Make sure you get an effective amount of exercise as this will both improve body image, and release endorphins (making you happier).
MASTERy (build): Try to do one thing a day to help build competence and control.
Opposite Action
This skill is used when you have an unjustified emotion, one that doesn't belong in the situation at hand. You use it by doing the opposite of your urges in the moment. It is a tool to bring you out of an unwanted or unjustified emotion by replacing it with the emotion that is opposite.
Problem Solving
This is used to solve a problem when your emotion is justified. It is used in combination with other skills.
Letting Go of Emotional Suffering
Observe and experience your emotion, accept it, then let it go.

[edit] Interpersonal Effectiveness

Interpersonal response patterns taught in DBT skills training are very similar to those taught in many assertiveness and interpersonal problem-solving classes. They include effective strategies for asking for what one needs, saying no, and coping with interpersonal conflict.

Individuals with borderline personality disorder frequently possess good interpersonal skills in a general sense. The problems arise in the application of these skills to specific situations. An individual may be able to describe effective behavioral sequences when discussing another person encountering a problematic situation, but may be completely incapable of generating or carrying out a similar behavioral sequence when analyzing his or her own situation.

The interpersonal effectiveness module focuses on situations where the objective is to change something (e.g., requesting that someone do something) or to resist changes someone else is trying to make (e.g., saying no). The skills taught are intended to maximize the chances that a person's goals in a specific situation will be met, while at the same time not damaging either the relationship or the person's self-respect.

[edit] Skills within the Interpersonal effectiveness module

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DEARMAN - to get something
Acronym for the skillset used to aid you in getting what you want when you ask:
Describe your situation.
Express why this is an issue and how you feel about it.
Assert yourself by asking clearly for what you want.
Reinforce your position by offering a positive consequence if you were to get what you want.
Mindful of the situation by focusing on what you want and ignore distractions.
Appear Confident even if you don't feel confident.
Negotiate with a hesitant person and come to a comfortable compromise on your request.
GIVE - giving something
This is a skill that can aid you with maintaining your relationships, whether they are friendships, coworkers, family, romantic, etc. It is to be used in conversations. It is another acronym that stands for the following:
Gentle: Use appropriate language, no verbal or physical attacks, no put downs, avoid sarcasm unless you are sure the person is alright with it, and be courteous and non-judgmental.
Interested: When the person you are speaking to is talking about something, act interested in what they are saying. Maintain eye contact, ask questions, etc. Do not use your cell phone while having a conversation with another person!
Validate: Show that you understand a person's situation and sympathize with them. Validation can be shown through words, body language and/or facial expressions.
Easy Manner: Be calm and comfortable during conversation, use humor, smile.
FAST - keeping self respect
This is a skill to aid you in maintaining your self-respect. It is to be used in combination with the other Interpersonal Effectiveness skills. It is another acronym, and it stands for the following:
Fair: Be fair to both yourself and the other person.
Apologies (few): Don't apologize more than once for what you have done ineffectively, or apologize for something which was not ineffective.
Stick to Your Values: Stay true to what you believe in and stand by it. Don't allow others to get you to do things against your values.
Truthful: Don't lie. Lying can only pile up and damage relationships and your self-respect.

[edit] Tools

[edit] Diary Cards

Specially formatted cards for tracking Therapy interfering behaviors that distract or hinder a patient's progress.

[edit] Chain Analysis

Chain analysis is a form of functional analysis of behavior but with increased focus on sequential events that form the behavior chain. It has strong roots in behavioral psychology in particular applied behavior analysis concept of chaining.[11] A growing body of research supports the use of behavior chain analysis with multiple populations.

[edit] Milieu

The milieu, or the culture of the group involved, plays a key role in the effectiveness of DBT.

Please click ACCEPT. Thank you.

Expert:  Kristin replied 3 years ago.

You should ask your therapist about this therapy that I just wrote to you about.

Dialectical behavior therapy. If she is not familiar with it, ask for a referral to someone who is. There have been many promising results and success storied using this therapy for people with emotionally unstable personality disorder.

You have to stay the course and commit to it, but it can be very beneficial.

Please do click ACCEPT for the time and assistance I have given to help you. Otherwise, I'm not credited for my assistance. Thank you.

Customer: replied 3 years ago.
Do you know if this sort of therapy is avalable on the N.H.S in the U.K?
Expert:  Kristin replied 3 years ago.

Feel free to continue the discussion with me, even after clicking ACCEPT, so that I can continue to help you... thanks!

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Expert:  Kristin replied 3 years ago.
What is the NHS exactly?

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