Hello and thank you for your question.
I can certainly understand your concerns for the safety and health of a developing baby.
If she is saying that she is going to taper off all medications within two months, and then try to get pregnant, that is one thing. It could be that she didn't want to admit that she is taking 3 medications, but intends to taper off of them all.
However, you cannot be sure of that. What I would do is speak to your son about this. It is a very important issue and considering it's for the wellbeing of a child, and also your son and his wife too this is not considered meddling
How were you made aware that she is on the anti psychotics and why is she taking them?
Somehow you didn't respond to my questions here, but I just saw your comments in the review section.
Okay, so you saw her meds. That is certainly proof. I would definitely talk to your son about this and let him know how concerned you are about the medications and the potential for the damage to a developing fetus. If you were snooping when you found the meds, then you cannot say that you were snooping. You could also give him or her a pamphlet or print out about which medications are safe during pregnancy and which are not and tell her that you know she is coming off the meds, but that you thought this would be useful information for them.
The bigger issue here that needs to be discussed, is if she is stable enough right now, to even go off the medications. And also how this will affect her during pregnancy and after.
You make your son aware by sitting down with him and telling him that it's very serious that she went to the ER for a meltdown. That you saw the medications that she left out and are concerned about her mental health. then you tell him that she mentioned she wants to get pregnant and that you are even more concerned due to what is going on with her emotionally, as well as the risks due to the medications.
You talk to him and you tell him how you feel, while staying calm. Be persistent and also tell him that he may feel overwhelmed with all of this as well. That he can talk to you about what is going on... It's good that she is seeing a psychiatrist and you could encourage your son to attend with her, so that he knows more about what is going on.
I know you are concerned...so you must talk with him and not worry about the meddling part. it sounds like he needs some family support with this. Her parents may need to get involved as well, if you don't see any thing improving after talking with him.
OK....sounds good so far. Her parents are part of the problem......her mother has the whole family seeing this psychiatrist.....husband, son, other daughter, and my son's wife. My son's mother-in-law is called "crazy" and schizophrenic" by her children! Her children call him "Dr. Pill" since the mother visits him for refills. When my daughter-in-law saw this MD last year, he told her that she didn't need to see him anymore, because "Your mother is the crazy one!" Sounds like someone here does not follow HIPPA.... Anyway, for whatever reason, I feel that my son does not face reality and I still can't understand why! After her meltdown, the parents came up to stay with them for a few days. The mother allegedly took her daughter to the psychiatrist. He asked her
when she started having these "anxiety issues". She answered that she thought it began when she started taking birth control pills. So this guy tells her to stop taking the birth control pills! I got this info from my other son. The next time my husband and I saw her, we asked her what had happened. She finally told us that the MD took her "off the pill because that's what was giving her the anxiety attacks"! I aked her what her OB/GYN had to say about that, and she said she had not seen him. We all know that her mother DESPERATELY wants a grandchild, and, in all honesty, I can even see them lying about the visit to the MD, and inventing their story. It upsets me that my son was not involved in ANY of this....and I know he was VERY ANGRY when he got home from work that day and heard "the story". I also don't understand how an MD could tell someone to stop taking birth control if he is treating this person for so many alleged psychiatric problems. I did have a conversation with her during our weekend visit where I mentiond detox....or maybe some form of bio-feedback. (She didn't even know what that was!) So....short story....I don't think my son would discuss anything with her parents. We have all commented from the beginning how tired and unenergetic she is; my son always says it's because of the pills she has to take. In the very beginning I said that she needed to be more closely monitored, and maybe have her medication adjusted. (or maybe see a REAL doctor!!) This is why I am at a loss now.....I do not want to lose my son, but, more importantly, I could never deal with having this mess dropped on a newborn! Do you have any more suggestions??
Thank you for the best suggestion of all.....a new psychiatrist! I will certainly try this as a suggestion for my son. I know he is not happy with the mother's interference, but for some reason he acquiesces all the time thinking it will make his wife happy. Maybe if I approach this from the "you're married now, you should be doing these MD things together with your wife" he'll become more involved in the decisions affecting HIS life!
Again, I've known from the beginning that there were issues, but thought that I could eventually reach him. I guess I feel more desperate now knowing that she has stopped birth control....and knowing what her agenda is. I have felt all along that she is one of those women to get married to have a baby so she can stop work and be "taken care of". We all know that in today's world that no longer works!
Thanks so much for all of your help, I really appreciate it.....more than I can express!
I hope, if I ever need help again, you are there!
Enjoy the rest of your evening!