It is hard to see our children struggle with an area of their life. You are right, as his father, to want to help him with his social skills. The best you can help him is by your example. What are your friendships like? Does he see you with your friends? The other thing you can do is to set up situations where he can practice social skills and have the opportunity to make friends. The two of you could start a new activity or hobby which would involve other kids his age. Take some classes together. If you know other men with boys about your son's age, arrange to do things together. If you have family members with kids around your son's age, see them often. You are right, you need to teach indirectly. He will learn by doing. If you can incorporate activity with socialization that will work the best.
are the any websites you can refer me to for additional information on this ongoing concern amongst many teenage parents ? Thanks Luann
Here are some websites -
A book I recommend for parents of teenagers is - "Parenting Teenagers: Systematic Training for Effective Parenting of Teens" by Don Dinkmeyer
I also recommend you check with your local school district, they oftentimes sponsor classes, one time or ongoing, for parents. Good luck to you and your son. Don't stop trying to help him with his social skills.