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It is okay to write a letter to her but I would suggest keeping the following in mind.
If she is a drug addict she is probably feeling enough shame and guilt for everyone in the family. Drug addicts are driven to use no matter what the consequences. i.e. stealing from a pharmacy.
I believe if you write a letter it should be to offer her assistance with finding a drug rehab program and also telling her anything you are no longer willing to do to support her addiction. Trying to tell her how badly she is hurting her father will probably fall on deaf ears right now
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I'm here! She's in Louisiana right now (where we're from) and we're in Pennsylvania due to her father's work. Expected to be here for another 4 months. We both want her to get in rehab, but we're not down there to make sure she does and to help her. Her
As usual, when she needs the money, we're not there, and she will get her way once again.
I would tell her that she has to enroll in rehab and that the counselors need to confirm she is in treatment before you can pay for fines and the attorney.
That's really good advice, hadn't thought of that. But what if she refuses to go?
Don't pay for anything if she doesn't go.
it would just be enabling if either of you do pay.
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