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Hello and thanks for writing JA
are you there?
I think I missed you. Did you reply somewhere else or were you just going to chat?
I still haven't figured out if you've answered my question yet.
Yes this is a chat format if you wish that I answer in a question and answer format let me know. I waited for you in chat but am glad you replied. I agree with you completely about the stripper night. Let me know if you are no longer able to chat and wish this to proceed in a question and answer format or if you wish to chat and speak to another expert. Best to you, Cathy
I see. Because my schedule's somewhat unpredictable, I would prefer to proceed in a question and answer format. Thanks!
okay since you are here now? do want to resolve this or not?
its okay if you cannot stay
just let me know
as soon as someone can get to you they will, warm regards, Cathy
Chat's really not the best format for me. I usually just stay on my computer for a few minutes at a time. Sometimes longer, but it's rather unpredictable when that will be due to my infant's schedule, work phone calls, my husband, and household chores. Thanks.
Not a problem I have released the question and any expert may now respond to you. I hope this goes well for you. Cathy
I just wanted to check: this question is still showing up as "Answered" under my account. Will somebody else be getting to it?
Hello and thank you for your question.
I can certainly understand your discomfort with the idea of your husband going to the strip club, etc. Are you wanting to know if your feelings are reasonable or not? Yes, they are reasonable and absolutely need to be considered fully by your husband.
The men can certainly agree to not go to a strip club that night, and I'm sure that the other wives and girlfriends would feel similar to you. How did you leave the discussion with your husband? Can he talk to the groom and let him know that he feels it's not appropriate?
Okay thank you for the additional information. Of course if it was a regular occurrence that would be a very big issue, and it's true that this is a special event. That being said, it's kind of an outdated way to celebrate at such parties, out of respect for the women in the men's lives, etc. But, if the groomsmen insist then I can see how your husband also feels trapped in the middle, and as best man would not want to tell the others what they can and cannot do. By the way, your feelings are more important than what the groomsmen think...
That being said, one option is that your husband could partake in the rafting during the day, etc. and then come back home, and NOT attend the strip club. This is where you both need to decide how to reach a solution where you are both comfortable. The options are he:
1.doesn't go at all.
2.talks to the other men about doing things that don't offend the wives.
3.partakes in some of the activities (but not the strip club).
4.does go to the strip club.
Those are the options.... he could also just stay in the cabin that night, and not go to the strip club, etc. You need to be honest with him how much it bothers you, that you feel it's disrespectful, the two of you discuss the options and then reach a compromise. But, yes your feelings are completely valid and reasonable. Please click ACCEPT button for this answer. Thank you.
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