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Norman M.
Norman M., Principal psychotherapist in private practice. Newspaper contributor, over 2000 satisfied clients on JA
Category: Mental Health
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I cant stop masturbating to my mother. Its sick, awful,

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I can't stop masturbating to my mother.

It's sick, awful, and wrong and the guilt is tearing me up inside.

It started after she cheated on my dad 5 years ago and hasen't stopped but it
has definetely decreased.

Even when they got back together I didn't stop.

When I see my mother now it strains our relationship because I won't allow myself
to become close to her because I'm worried of my intentions.

I really want to stop can you help me?
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Norman M. replied 5 years ago.

NormanM :

Hello, I'm Norman. Are you ready to chat?

Customer:

yes, hello Norman.

Customer:

I am ready.

NormanM :

Hello there - what have you tried to do about this so far?

Customer:

just abolishing the thoughts all together

Customer:

thinking of another woman

Customer:

stopped masturbating

Customer:

stopped fantasizing

NormanM :

Ok, but it did not work. I think that in this situation, you are going to have to get some one-on -one personal help to deal with this.

Customer:

working on my relationship with my mom

Customer:

you think so?

Customer:

I'm too ashamed to speak about this openly.

Customer:

i mean its incest for christ's sake!!!

NormanM :

I do indeed - it has been going on for a long time now, and has become a deep seated obsession which I doubt you can handle on your own.

NormanM :

Not, it's not incest as such. It is a fantasy that you have not acted upon

Customer:

I don't hit on my mom though it just happens when i hit it

Customer:

i dont want to act upon it though

NormanM :

I can well understand how guilty you must feel about it, but if you talk to a professional, you'll be half way there.

Customer:

what will they tell me?

Customer:

i need to understand this psychology 101

NormanM :

And don't worry about speaking about it - in this jib we hear worse every day. We are not here to judge, we are here to help, and you can be pretty sure that almost any therapist you go to has things they would rather keep to themselves.

NormanM :

Basically, I suggest Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I' have a handout I give my patients about that - shall I post it on here for you?

Customer:

thank you Norman, i think ill follow your advice and see a doctore

Customer:

have a good day

NormanM :

Hold on - and I'll post a lot of info for you,OK?

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