I fear that my fourteen year old daughter is suffering from a Sociopathic disorder. I have noticed something that doesn't feel right for years, but always find a way to reationalize it. That may be the case now was well, but it feels different, compulsive lying, lack of respect for anybody in the house, lying about everything.
If she hurts somebody with her words or ruining something or taking something, she may apologize, but then she will do it again. Any promise to clean her room, do her laundry, etc. is almost like she didn't make the promise at all.
I have been reaising children for 33 years (my own) and she is the baby, I thought my oldest gaughter didn't survive her teenage years because I wanted to throttle her, but the youngest, she is pushing every limit there is. I actually had to leave the house tonight so I would not hurt her. Her freinds brought Cigarettes, Wine and Pot to my house for a little gathering they were having in the basement.
I explained to all of the kids when they got here, empty your bags, pockets, etc. whatever I find I keep, you can join the get together, I thought I was being very rational about the whole thing. One girls snuck by with the wine, another gorl had cigarettes in her bra, and a boy had pot in his underwhere. My daughter told them I was going to bag and pocket check, so to hide it well.
They all knew who was bringing what. I called every parent to have them come pick up their lying children and then I was left with mine (and yes, I did
tell every parent what happened), now I am horrible, she can never go back to school again I have ruined her life and she is going to cut herself, which is the "in" thing right now.
in the house is high right now as we are getting ready to sell the house and move a town over. I am looking for whatever reason for her to not be a Sociopath or have any of the illnesses that are in the same family.
We are in forclosure and will be selling the house in the next few months, but she had exhibited the sysptoms even when most things are great. She may have GAD
, which I have thought of, (and I hope it is, as it is the lesser of all of the evils and can be treated with talk therapy and light medication) she is highly stressed most of the time, except when she is with her freinds, but even then there is drama.
I just really need some guidance here, I do not want to put her through tests that are not required, I also do not want to miss anything, finding that balance is very difficult. Unfortunately she meets about 80% of the Sociopathic symptons/behavior.
The area that we live in is also terrible for her. her age group of girls are the worst little creatures I have ever encountered. I don't know it if is the blue collar area (we moved to semi-rural PA from So Cal. Even the boys are into the bullying
, cyber and face to face.
I had to threaten to sue the school board last year because my daughter did not feel safe at school. That seems to have passed a bit, the peer pressure to be a complete idiot in this area is astounding.
Any insight, answers, questions, etc. are all welcome.