thanks for the information... I would have to say on your questions about our situation, it is the latter. I USUALLY go on anything and everything he asks. I have been searching around on the internet about a controlling husband and he seems to fit the bill.
I just dont know how to deal with it. I know I can't CHANGE him, but I need to know how to deal with him. He always needs to blame someone for anything bad that happens.
and I am always at fault for anything that goes wrong. Even it is so random that something happens. an example, lets say, our toddler falls off the sofa, he would say "why did you push her off the sofa" or "why did momma hurt you?"
He critizes everything from my driving (saying you are scaring me and the baby), to making dinner (I dont approve, I didnt want tacos).
I think in his mind its funny to a point to always make the first stab at someone, but after 5 years of hearing this crap, I am really sick of it.
Basically because I never do anything right, or choose anything right.
If I dissagree to something he wants, like he'll say, does pizza sound good for dinner? I'll say, no, not in the mood for pizza. He'll come back saying, ok, guess we have to get what you want, not like I wanted pizza or anything.
I always end up arguing with him because I try to come back and defend myself or my decision, OR I try to back track and give in on what he wants "Ok, lets get pizza", but by then, I get the complete opposite reaction where he then says "No, can't get pizza cause that's not what you want~!"
its so tough cause I cant win no matter what I say. and its not like I am trying to WIN, I just want to keep him happy with out arguing. but no matter WHAT i say, practically most of the time its the wrong answer or he doesn't respect my decision, saying I ruined everything!
completely controlling... I just need tips on how to deal with someone like this with out fighting. AAARUGH!