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Arundhati, Counselor & Psychotherapist
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i have a question ,it is like a question i asked before but

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i have a question ,it is like a question i asked before but tonight i was with a girl and i like her when we were talking i was aroused but when i try to have sex i cant ,i feel like i cant get out of my mind and just let go of myself ,this kind of thing has been going on for a long time and i feel is ruining my life.tring psychologist,and pychatrist ,help:ciaran

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What you describe sounds like a result of underlying anxiety. The best treatment approach would be behavior therapy along with anti-anxiety medication (if necessary).

You mention that you've been seeing a psychologist for the last year - is she/he using cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)? If not, I would recommend that you talk to your psychologist about using CBT to address your fears. Also, clearly, there seems to be certain thoughts/underlying beliefs (e.g. I will not be able to perform adequately when I have sex, or I am not worthy of having good sex) could be at the root of your inability to perform. I would recommend working on what these beliefs, hindering thoughts are and replacing them with positive, empowering ones.

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