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Welcome to Just Answer and thanks for your question. I am sorry transference ruined your first therapeutic relationship to the extent that the therapist had to withdraw for your own good. Perhaps your new therapist will work through this with you so that you understand why you redirected your feelings to the therapist.
The idea of therapy is to work through the sadness. That you are being dragged back into it means that you still have some work to do. It is only by working through the sadness that you will feel better.