There are two different fathers, she was married to both. Neither earns a living. The father to the oldest, Darren (handicapped) is in poor health from too many drugs. The father of the two younger ones had a heart attack at 40. He did not follow up with doctors care so cannot draw disability. He does nothing but come around and cause confusion.
My daughter says she cannot physically make Luke (10 yr. old) go to school. He has gone the last couple of days. I honestly can't tell you where their clothes go.
The question of drugs. I know that several years ago she was prescribed painkillers from back injury. I do not know if she still takes them. She does physically move Darren from bed to toilet back to bed and he is quite heavy. She has provided his care since birth. I do not want to make her sound like a monster, she isn't. She says she takes care of her children 24/7. He definition of taking care of a child (teeth brushed, clean clothes that they can find) is far different than my definition.
Her apartment looks like a hoarder. I do not know what to do. I want a life. I do have a wonderful son who is in grad school and has never given me problem.
If I have not answered all your questions let me know. Thank you very much.