I have a daughter age 38 with three children ages 7, 10 and 20 (mentally and physically disabled). I have continued to help support her and now her children too. The fathers of the children provide no support whatsoever. I am 55 years old and did
have a nice sum of money in my 401K. It has now been mostly wiped out in order to continue support to daughter, her children and a son who is in graduate school.
The daughter's children (the two youngest ) call her horrible names and she is on the verge of having to go to court because the ten year old won't get up and go to school.
Jennifer (daughter) believes she is not responsible for the way her children act. At the beginning of this school year I purchased new school clothes, shoes, backpacks, everything they needed because I knew she would not "get around to it." Now, the children can't find half their clothes or socks.
I am very weary of all this. What can I do short of completely cutting them out of my life to get some peace? My last thoughts at night before I fall asleep are worries about them and what tomorrow's catastrophe will be. When I wake up during the night the same worries begin and then no sleep until I have to get up for work.
I spoke with Dr. Mark last time. Thank you and I look forward to your reply, I really need help. Paula