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I am sorry to hear about this issue. The botXXXXX XXXXXne in this situation is that you are in a relationship that has betrayed your trust not just once but over a period of time when there were many missed opportunities for her to discuss this with you. Therefore, the foundation of your relationship is severely fractured.
Anytime there is a triangle there is someone that is going to be deeply hurt ( in this case it is you ). Her behavior suggests a lack of honor for your relationship and the fact that she has moved to a friends to give you some time furthers my belief that this relationship may be fractured to the point where repair may not be possible.
Once a couple separates, there is less than 10% chance that the issues which caused the break will successfully be resolved.
In working with couple for 30 years, what you describe is not uncommon, however, the efforts to repair the issues are almost impossible, particularly is you are not married and have no children to complicate the issue.
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Otherwise, I wish you the best at this difficult time.
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