Hi, Thanks for waiting. Let me say I can imagine how worried, anxious and sad
you must have been about this situation. It sounds like you are holding big feelings about what happened between you and your sister in childhood. Do you feel sad, anxious, angry or guilt? In any case,
I advise you to see a counselor to express and process your feelings and thoughts WEEKLY. You may ask your doctor for a psychologist/psychotherapist that you can work with weekly. You can call your insurance company and get a list of providers in your area. Or, you can search a licensed psychotherapist on internet- such as the PSYCHOLOGY TODAY website. Go to (http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/ppc/prof_search.php?iorb=4764) and enter your zip code and optional category of specialty such as trauma. Read psychotherapists’ profile to see if he or she specializes in Cognitive-behavior therapy. You may also want to create your mental image of psychotherapist that you want to work with – Male or female? Old or young? To note, many therapists offer initial consultation for free. So you can see it as an informational meeting. You can ask any question. If you seek a low fee counseling, you may call The United Way toll free # XXXXX to find the community mental health centers in your area in which he can get counseling even without health insurance.
In addition, you also may try some or all of the following to improve and manage your emotion - 1. Exercise moderately, but regularly, 2. Eat healthy but delicious meals, 3. Regularize your sleep cycle, 4. Don't drink to excess or abuse drugs, 5. Spend some time every day in play, 6. Develop recreational outlets that encourage creativity, 7. Distance yourself from destructive situations or people, 8. Practice mindfulness meditation
, or walk, or an intimate talk, every day, 9. Allow yourself to feel pride in your accomplishments, 10, Listen to compliments and expression of affection, 11. Build and use a support system, 12. Pay more attention to small pleasures and sensations, 13. Challenge yourself, 14. Avoid unstructured time, 15. Yoga, meditation, Acupuncture, Guided imagery, and massage therapy may be helpful. The books "The Relaxation & Stress
Reduction workbook" by Dr. Davis, Eshelman, and McKay may be helpful. I hope you get well. Please let me know if you have more questions or I have overlooked any.
P.S. Please remember to click the green accept button. Feel free to continue the discussion; my goal is to get you the best answers possible. Warm regards, – Dr. Olsen