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Your granddaughter is not too little to be evaluated by a child specialist. It doesn't need to be a doctor. A therapist can ask her appropriate questions, and determine if she needs to be seen by a doctor. I don't think your concerns are unreasonable. Your grandson needs to be evaluated also, since he was the one who initiated the touching. It is very important that your daughter explain to them that no one touches their privates unless they are being helped if they are hurt, or a doctor needs to touch them, etc. They are not to touch other people's privates, also.
BotXXXXX XXXXXne: Both of them need to be evaluated by a child specialist to see if further examination is necessary or if authorities should be notified.
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Yes, I need your opinion regarding the father of the children (my daughter's husband), why he does not backup mother in telling the kids what not to play? Do you think that the father is in favor of those games? He does not talk too much and I have to ask him questions to establish a conversation. I always thought that a father would be incline to be the best friend of his son, but he prefers to be with the girl; and I feel sorry with the boy who in turn I can see he feels rejected by his father. Can you refer me to a therapist in St Petersburg, FL?