How JustAnswer Works:
  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.
Ask TherapistMarryAnn Your Own Question
TherapistMarryAnn, Therapist
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 5763
Experience:  Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues.
Type Your Mental Health Question Here...
TherapistMarryAnn is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

My 23 year old son is floundering...hes been in and out of

Resolved Question:

My 23 year old son is floundering...he's been in and out of two schools. 1 college..1 hair design school..he doesn't have a drug problem....he's working part time(minimal the co. doesn't always have work for him).....I know there is a part time job in CA for him..yet he wants to move again back to CO to find work.....I think he's just running again and looking for a change of husband and I and his older brother all live in CA and I especially do not think it's a good idea for him to keep bouncing all over the place w/o committing this normal for a 23 yr. old?
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  TherapistMarryAnn replied 5 years ago.

Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.


Sometimes younger people need the time to figure out what they want to do with themselves. They often work minimum wage jobs just to get by until they find their way. There is nothing wrong with this as long as long as he is supporting himself and not relying on others to get him by and he is not showing signs of a mental health disorder.


The only other concern is whether or not his depression is affecting his ability to be motivated and to what extend. If you see that he still has symptoms of depression and it affects him in other ways, such as laying in bed all day, not caring for himself, crying a lot, appetite changes or any suicidal thoughts, then you should encourage him to get help. He can see his regular doctor and take a mild anti depressant until he can get back into treatment and deal with the depression. Lack of motivation can be a part of depression, but if you do not see any other symptoms, then he is probably fine.


There are also some books that may help you talk with him. One is called Talking to Depression: Simple Ways To Connect When Someone In Your Life Is Depressed by Claudia J. Strauss and Martha Manning. Another is Could Do Better": Why Children Underachieve and What to Do About It by Harvey P. Mandel and Sander I. Marcus. Also, this book may help as well Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men by Leonard Sax. You can find these on or your local library may have them.


I hope this has helped,






TherapistMarryAnn and other Mental Health Specialists are ready to help you

Related Mental Health Questions