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Your medication is obviously not working. You need a second opinion, and a change in medication. You also need another therapist. I would try to find a cognitive-behavioral therapist to help you learn how to manage your negative feelings and get you motivated to do more. As for your husband, you know you cannot change him, you can only change yourself.
Please do this for YOU!
I saw my psyc.last week and she said she did think I was as depressed like before and my therapist I have been with for now on 8+ yrs. I don't understand am I not comunicating something right??
Apparently you are not communicating properly. That is why I would like you to start over with a new doctor who will look at your case with fresh eyes. All you need to do is get another opinion. You can stay with your present doctor if you wish, but get another opinion.
If you have been with your therapist for 8 years and are not getting better, it may be a good idea to get another therapist, but for sure please get another medical opinion from another doctor and have your medications evaluated.