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I am sorry to tell you that there is not much you can do for either your husband or your daughter. Since you asked about her, the first problem to be addressed is her drinking. She may have learned the lying behavior from her father and when she drinks, since it lowers inhibitions, she just spins tall tales because that is what Dad did. It sounds like he built an entire persona around these lies, which is why the psychologist told you not to confront him. For your daughter it is probably a different issue, and you can confront her, but I would talk to her about the drinking first.
If she will not accept that she has a drinking problem, you have no leverage. She is a grown woman and you will need to allow her to accept the consequences of her behavior. I strongly suggest Alanon for support and good information on how to deal with her. It is free and they have meetings every day of the week.
Do you have further questions about anything I have said?
P.S. Daniel Amen is a very good resource, and I like his work, but the drinking is primary here. It needs to be addressed first.
HI I will accept but was looking for something more..."modern" for example how to understand the lying. The brain patterns that lead to addictions. And ways to help with that. You know the inherited etchings in our brains.
Thank you so much.