Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.
From reading your list of symptoms, it sounds as if you have an anxiety disorder. This an easily treatable disorder, especially with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). You mentioned that you have been seen in therapy before. If you presented with these same symptoms, you should have been diagnosed with anxiety, or a similar diagnosis. There may very well be some depression mixed in there as a secondary diagnosis but if I were to see you with those presenting symptoms, I would rule out anxiety first.
It also sounds as if you have been traumatized. As a therapist, I would also consider Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome as a possible diagnosis. This disorder would cause many of the symptoms you are experiencing.
Because the nature of your symptoms is mostly physical, you should get a thorough physical workup from your doctor. You need to rule out any physical problems before you proceed to treat the symptoms as an emotional issue.
I recommend you seek out therapy again. If your first two experiences did not help, try again. Finding a good therapy experience is much like finding a good doctor, you search until you find a fit. You can ask your regular physician for a referral, or if you attend church your pastor can help. Also, your local community mental health center is a good place to find a therapist.
As for wetting the bed, one of the common causes of enuresis (wetting the bed) for adults is intolerance of high protein intake. In other words, cut down on the amount of protein you are consuming. This often helps control enuresis.
Some books that may help you are The 10 Best-Ever Anxiety Management Techniques: Understanding How Your Brain Makes You Anxious and What You Can Do to Change It by Margaret Wehrenberg and The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Anxiety: A Step-by-Step Program by William J. Knaus. Also, Conquering Bladder and Prostate Problems: The Authoritative Guide for Men and Women by Jerry Blaivas and M.D., Jerry G. Blaivas.
I hope this has helped you,
Then I would definitely go with the mental health treatment. It is amazing how much our minds can affect our bodies. Given the trauma you have gone through and the stress you are experiencing, your body is going to react and it will show it in the form of pain and stress symptoms.
It is a very common symptom of anxiety to have chest pains. Sometimes anxiety is diagnosed because the person presents so many times to the doctor's or the ER with chest pains. If you take a look at the list of anxiety symptoms, you will see many physical complaints as something anxiety patients mention over and over. Dizziness, pain over various parts of the body, headaches, etc are all part of the diagnosis. Treatment can include ways to help you relax and alleviate some, if not all, of these symptoms.
I would seek out a therapist first. It can be a master's level therapist or a psychologist (doctorate level). Both are qualified to evaluate your symptoms and provide treatment. If they feel that you need medication at this point, they can either refer you back to your doctor or to a psychiatrist for medication.