For Mina, Our communication has been broken ever since I got pregnant with my 2nd child, and that was about June 2009. Things were very different, he always wanted to be around me and spend time with me. we went out to eat and to the movies. But we haven't done that in oh my gosh, a very long time, too llong to remember. He is good with the kids when he is home but like with our 10 month old he doesn't mess with her too much, even when my first daughter was younger and i would be at work, only a few hours after they had woke up he would take her to my mom and dads and drop her off, so he could spend time with his friends and I would have to pick her up after I got off of work. Here lately I have tslked often about leaving and his reply would be "you can't live without me" and my response is "you need me more than I need you". I do everything around the house, if something needs repaired I do it. I cook, clean, do laundry, and take care of our 2 girls because his excuse is he is tired. And I do tell him he doesn't do anything for me. If one of his friends called and needed help and he only had a couple hours of sleep he would be right there. But if I would let him sleep and just ask to to watch the girls for 15 min. so I could clean something he tells me I can do it later, when they go to sleep. Or if I want him to move something he will say ok, but then he never does it. He would never want to go see someone professional to talk. He did
tell me he loved me but he doesn't want to argue anymore and we don't argue a whole lot and I did tell him that with any relationship you are going to have your ups and downs, thats just life. He did cheat on me in 2007, with someoone I knew, we weren't qiute friends but if we seen one another out we spoke. we were even at the same bar one night after I graduated from nursing school, because we were celebrating and she and I were buying each other drinks and what pissed me off the most is they cheated like a week before my graduation and she still acted like everything was ok. But I am over it now. He says he doesn't have to buy me anything because he knows he already has me and I have told him more than once that if he had me I wouldn't be talking about leaving all the time. He just acts like he doesn't know me cause even when I'm feeling down he never says whats wrong, and that bothers me also. He used to do that or he used to suprise me. I used to be skinny and I don't know if that has anything to do with it or not, but even then I was self conscious. so I went from 130 to 200 but I'm losing the weight. But he constantly stares at other girls and when I bring it up, he will say I do not, and he doesn't try to hide it. It's like he is trying to break his neck to look at other girls and then lie right to my face.